Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Writing a Blog Gets Me In Trouble

*I first wrote this post almost two weeks ago.  At the time I was emotionally raw and angry.  Instead of posting it right away I sat on it.  I needed to be sure that I was ready to share and that I wasn't writing angry. Since writing this I have found a job, and have started working on a long-term goal of mine (to be shared at a later date).*

I started this blog almost three years ago as an outlet for my fast-growing love of cheese.  In that time I have been very careful to keep my blogging life, and my work life separate.  In the interest of full disclosure, I have let the two employers I've had since starting this venture know about my blog.  I have been very upfront about it, and have let them all know that I don't "name names".  I have not mentioned where I've worked, or any co-workers or bosses by name.  I even gave my brother a code name in a post I created in 2010.  I am not sponsored and I rarely accept promotional items from cheesemakers, or authors.  

By being a somewhat anonymous blogger I can be freer with my words.  I can write a post about a cheese that was so bad it hurt my soul and I don't have to worry about offending the advertisers, or getting my boss into trouble.  It's been a good run.  

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about being a goat. I was venting my sadness, how I miss the cheese, and my general ennui.   I thought long and hard about writing that post because it was so personal, perhaps something that would be better shared with a shrink.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that the people I really wanted to share it with were the people who read my blog.  I wanted to let people know the reason for my infrequent posts.  If I am honest about cheese, I have to be honest about myself.  

So I posted it.

Shortly after the post went up I was called in for a talk with my boss and I was fired.  Although we had had pleasant email exchanges just two days prior, my boss let me know that one of the reasons I was being let go was because I was "writing nasty things about us".  

To say that I was stunned would be an understatement.  I've never been fired before.  I was angry, and if I'm going to be honest, confused.  For a brief moment I even thought about shutting the blog down.  

That's not going to happen.

So yeah, like millions of other Americans I’m unemployed.  Instead of looking at this as a negative, curling up in bed and watching endless episodes of Buffy the Vampire Slayer while living off of diet coke and chocolate I'm going to turn this into a positive.  The post I wrote about being a goat was about me feeling out of my element, floundering and being lonely without my herd.   It's time for me to go back to that world.  

When life gives you lemons, use the citric acid as a coagulant and make a fresh cheese.


Anonymous said...

I can't believe you got fired over stating your boss didn't like cheese as much as you. I just wonder what the next generation will be like seeing as this one has a vast majority that act like middle schoolers. I mean, if your boss didn't like it, he/she could have asked you privately to remove it. It's fairly simple. You most assuredly have my sympathy.

Anonymous said...

I sat here in front of the screen with my mouth agape.

It is not you, Cheesewench - with your obvious and thorough reflection upon your life - who needs to wake up and smell reality. Your life is cheese (and family and cat), and not something you've managed to keep hidden from us readers.

I may be greedy, but please, STAY CHEESY! The manner in which you live your day-to-day life - working, shopping or traveling - and connecting it with sundry cheeses is fresh and interesting and fun

It is also very educational. I never used to give much thought to a grilled cheese sandwich until I met Cheese is Alive.

I know you are not going to broadcast the name of this foul employer, and I agree with that. But a small part of me wants him/her to realize their deep level of schmuck-itude in a way that only a revenge email campaign can do.

Maybe the other goats should nay-in.

Cranky Old Goat said...

What absolute nonsense!

I looked back several times to find anything in any of your posts that could possibly be construed as being “nasty”, or offensive, or even disrespectful enough to fire someone, and came up empty.

Frankly to take offense at such a mild statement of opinion is not only absurd and ridiculous, but very childish.

I am sorry you lost a job, but you are far better off not working for such a silly sausage!

Hooves are going up and down.

Indeclinable said...

...Wait, what??? Let me get this straight. You were fired for writing that your employer says cheeses she doesn't like taste like cheddar. That's it? That's all? That's crazy!

First, it's hard to believe anyone past their teen years would take real offense at that, rather than giving it a shrug and a self-deprecating laugh, and second of all, why didn't she just ask you to delete the upsetting comment? I gotta say, only in a major recession would an employer behave so ridiculously and so extremely.

Well, anyway, with a boss like that, you're much better off NOT having that job any longer! Onward and upward!

Kim said...

You can come visit our herd anytime you need a goat and a cheese fix :)
-Willow Moon Farm, Plainfield, VT

CurdNerd said...


S. said...

Cheese solidarity, indeed....

Joe said...

FTS. Any employer that clueless isn't worth working for anyway.

The House Mouse said...

That is just crazy! No whey should you have been let go for something so innocent. Goat get them at your new job!
Stay Cheesy!
The House Mouse